Finally Getting Our Toddler Room Done!

This post is sponsored by the wonderful removable
wallpaper company Rocky Mountain Decals!

Ok, so! I don’t know if you have noticed on my Instagram feed, but we never really had a nursery. We had a bedroom with a dresser and a crib where Zoey slept, and Hazel is still sleeping with Tim and I (we are currently working on transitioning her into Zoey’s room but you know how this works…). We did not really know what we wanted to do in that bedroom, but we knew 2 things: we wanted an accent wall and we wanted minimal furniture and decoration. Since we have started our minimalist journey not too long ago, we wanted to make sure that their bedroom was uncluttered, easy to clean and cute… but not too babyish.

We browsed through the Rocky Mountain Decals website (click HERE) and absolutely fell in love with the Cactus pattern. It would mix well with Pink (which Zoey LOOOOVES) it was overall the best fit for what we had in mind.

We received our package, yay! We were so excited!

It was very well packaged and it included a Pink “Card” Tool, which you will use to remove the bubbles, and a sheet with instructions on how to apply the wallpaper.

I immediately unrolled it and put weighs on the top and the bottom.

Next step was lining up the wallpaper sheet with the corner of our ceiling, peel off the back and roll it down the wall, making sure to get rid of all bubbles as you slowly apply the wallpaper. Take your time, and if you do have to remove it to re-center it it’s ok because it will not damage your wall (yay)! I found it easier to have my husband help me, so if you have a buddy that can make the process a bit faster, great! If not, you can still do it yourself 🙂

Tim made sure to remove the outlet, cut around it and reinstall it. It was painless, quick and looks so good!

Mid-process, my children decided to wake up, but luckily they were eager to help! (just kidding, like that would EVER happen, but hey… we got it done anyways!)

Time for the last sheet! I measured the length of the remaining wall, and then cut the last sheet accordingly, BEFORE I applied it on the wall. I used a sharp cutting knife, with cardboard underneath the wallpaper sheet to protect the floors.

When I finished applying the last piece to the wall, all I had to do was trim the bottom edges, which I did with the same knife. I preferred to do it afterwards, and I made sure that I used the card tool to really mark where I would need to trim it.

It took me literally 2 minutes to finish it up!

After that, Tim built Zoey a montessori house framed bed, I bought a few decorations, we put Hazel’s crib in there and OH MY GOD WE HAVE A STINKING CUTE NURSERYYYY!!

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You can watch the process below! It took us about an hour start to finish, and we are thrilled with how it turned out!!!

Click HERE for wallpaper, and THANK YOU Rocky Mountain Decals for giving us EXACTLY what we wanted!!

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YAAAAAAAYYYYY!

How Minimalism Has Changed My Life.

I am going to preface this post by saying two things:

  1. Minimalism works different for every person/family. Being a minimalist does not mean that I will only own 1 pair of shoes or never shop again, it means that I will make conscious purchases based on what my family and I actually need, as opposed to receiving an email from a store about a special sale and making an impulsive purchase of things I do not need because I would be “saving money” or “missing out on a great deal”. 
  2. Throw out the preconceived perception that minimalism is that specific Instagram Scandinavian/everything white/expensive curated aesthetics thing we see everywhere. Although those things are absolutely gorgeous and inspiring, they do not reflect the majority of our lives/budgets/lifestyles. Create your very own minimalistic lifestyle, just like I am doing.

Ok. Let’s get this started!

A regular day in my life would look something like this: wake up sleep drunk with a very much awake baby at 5:45-6:00 am, tripping on absolutely every kind of random crap on my way to the kitchen, making coffee right away, and feeling immediately discouraged by taking a glimpse at how destroyed every single room in my house looks like. Toys, unfolded laundry, more toys, a thousand sippy cups, wrappers, more toys, stuff from the kitchen the girls insist on playing with, nothing had a set place to live…. literally a nightmare. Does this sound familiar or am I the only one who should have appeared on the tv show Hoarders? I did not know much about what I could do about it, but I did know one thing: I could not spend another full weekend moving items from one room to another, buying more organizers and wasting time I would rather be enjoying with my family because I had to CLEAN. THE. FREAKING. HOUSE.

So… one Friday evening, I had a fight with my husband and, although I do not remember what it was about, I do remember both of us being very overwhelmed that day. We were always stressed, angry, frustrated, and uneasy and we did not know why. To cope with our fights I clean… that is what I do. I started cleaning my kitchen, and there was SO MUCH STUFF. STUFF. STUFF. STUFF EVERYWHERE. Dozens of extra and unmatched storage containers, unused and broken appliances, dozens of mugs and drawers stuffed with ridiculous things like those brushes to use on turkeys, like I don’t even know the name and I HAD 2 UNUSED ONES! I was so on edge, that I said loudly: THIS IS IT! I went on a purging spree that cleansed my soul. That was exactly what I needed, and in that moment I knew that things were about to change for good. I asked my husband if he minded if I got rid of some things and since we were not talking at that moment, all he said was: get rid of everything, and got back to playing with Hazel. I purged about 50% of our kitchen, most went straight to the trash bag(S), and some items I offered to my family and friends. About 2 hours later, I stared at my counter in disbelief: it was CLUTTER FREE.

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I decided that I needed some guidance, so I plunged into Youtube and found a couple of videos where people decluttered their homes. After watching a few channels like “Pick Up Limes” and Allison Anderson, I embraced the “IF YOU DO NOT ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT, ABSOLUTELY DO NOT KEEP IT” method. Simple and straight to the point. Can you live without it? Yes? Then TOSS IT or DONATE IT. Do you absolutely love it? THEN KEEP IT. Make sure to be ruthless at times, but also very realistic. I kept 1 box of special memory items for the girls and 1 for Tim and me, and that was surprisingly enough to keep all of our sweet memories. I also kept my collection of bobble heads from The Office and my collection of snow globes from the countries I have visited, and nothing else besides that.

We also got rid of one of the biggest instigators and probably the biggest cause of our clutter and shopping problem: our e-mail subscriptions. Tim found a free website online (there are tons out there) that gets rid of ALL of your newsletter/sales subscriptions. I was subscribed to 44 websites that sent me sales on a regular basis and Tim was surprisingly subscribed to over 400, like WHAT!?

After doing some more research, I came across the documentary “Minimalism”, that is on Netflix. OH.MY.GOD. It changed my entire life to the point I was in tears.

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The main point of the documentary is to make us understand that we don’t need things. We hunger and thirst for meaningful relationships and experiences, peace of mind and a quality of life that will lead us to one day looking back with pride at our legacy and story! I do not want to look back and remember how many hours I spent trying to organize a house that was overflowing with things that I did not need which lead to debt and kept me from making memories with my family! Dear God I am getting HEATED over here!!

Some people recommend to start small, conquor room by room to not overwhelm you, but I was so incredibly fed up that I reclaimed the entire house in about 5 days. Don’t ask me how, because before that I kept whining about how little house work I was able to do during the day because of the girls, but I pushed through anything and everything with some help from the TV and the iPad and the husband to keep the girls entertained during my family’s life-changing process.

The more I purged, the more I wanted to purge. 60% of our closets was donated, that was about 8 contractor bags. 2 bags of toys, 1 bag of kitchen items, 2 bags of house decor, 8 items of furniture, 5 linen sets, and an unbelievable number of 17 contractor bags of GARBAGE. YES. GAR-BA-GE. Garbage was cluttering my home, my mind, my time, my life! Everyday when Tim came back home from work, he would say, oh my god, the house is feeling less and less cramped, this looks amazing, AND IT SURE DID!

On Sunday night when I finished purging the last bit, we made dinner. We ate and finished our meal, and it took me 4 minutes to clean the kitchen. Tim and I sat in the living room and I could hear my voice echoing around the room when I said: This does’t feel real.

We were overcome with joy. All that stress and excess and distraction and NOISE…. it was all… gone. We felt light. Free. Decluttered inside and out. We spent the rest of the night playing with the girls, singing and just being together. I put together some before and after photos below:

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Does my house look like the perfectly clean pictures above everyday? Absolutely not, BUT now it is much faster for me to organize the house since everything I own I love or use, and they all have a place to live. I usually deep clean the entire house in about 1 hour twice a week, which I think is pretty good and allows me to spend time doing what I actually want to be doing: playing with the girls, going out and cooking! I stare at my own home so proud of finally understanding that what really matters is not the things I have, but the quality of life that I want to live and the lesson I want to teach my daughters about consumerism and consciousness.

By being intentional with my purchases, I have been re-thinking my old habits and choices. I am thinking about what I eat, what I wear, what kind of people I want to have in my life, how much waste and trash I create and because I have stirred the pot, many emotional changes have happened… good and bad, but so many positive things have come from this lifestyle change and I cannot wait to share them all with you.

I still believe I have plenty more of purging and decluttering to do. Just like everything in our lives, downsizing is a process and for now I am enjoying looking empty drawers and clear countertops!

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Coming up, I will write about how I am slowly upgrading my wardrobe, and avoiding to purchase crappy and cheap items, but investing a tad more on staple pieces for a capsule wardrobe that will last me years. I will also write about minimalism & kids, since we need so much to entertain them, will update you on more decluttering I am doing not only in my house but in my life, and decluttering techniques that have worked for me.

Thank you for your support always, and I truly hope that if you have just been waiting for the motivation to start, that you do start. That’s all it takes!

All my love,

Maya.

How Has Parenthood Reshaped Me?

There are so many reasons I love Target and always have, especially when they offered to sponsor this very post and start a discussion on how parenthood changes us in ways that make us feel like we are normal and belong. You can click HERE to shop Target baby, but let’s be real… as you’re reading this, you’re already standing in your doorway and throwing kids in the back seat for your very own Target adventure. No reason to be embarrassed, so am I. If I see you there, let’s do that “stay strong momma” or “I feel you sister” head nod as we cross paths with our chorus of screaming babies!

When I analyze my life after having children, it makes me realize that, ironically, I have never been more myself. I say ironically, because I have had literally zero time for myself, zero nights of good sleep, zero trips to the bathroom alone, zero time to commit to music which is what I love the most in the world, and still I feel like I have never been more me than I am right now, and I will tell you why.

 Motherhood has shaken and turned my world upside down, reshaping me deeply and re-centering my priorities. In a situation where I would have been judgmental and lay blame, I now literally imagine myself in the other person’s shoes, I try to picture their story, what may have brought them to this point. I now understand my parents better now better than I could have understood them when I was younger, I am more patient and loving with them because I can now finally understand all sacrifices they have made for me all my life. I now prefer to be kind to people, it feels so much better than ignoring them or being indifferent. To myself, I now give grace and a greater sense of self-worth because I want to be a healthy example of self-love and confidence to my two little girls. I want them to grow up with no doubts that they are strong, that they are powerful and that they can be whatever they dream or imagine they can become.

 I attribute all the good changes and this Maya 2.0 version 100% to my children. This is not a result of my own work. I did not develop these traits alone, I believe that Maya 2.0 is a direct product of my children and their presence in my life.

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Things are not always cupcakes and rainbows by any stretch of the imagination. Some days I just to step out of the room where both my children are screaming, crying and misbehaving in, because I feel like I am about to lose control over my “keeping it together” emotions and break in front of them. I take a couple of minutes to come back to reality, and try understanding that they don’t know better 90% of the time, and that rough days will happen. Some mornings I cry because I only got 3 hours of sleep, and one of them spilt my coffee and I feel completely alone and defeated, but these moments are the reason we all are reshaped after becoming parents. It is within the depth of each and every hardship that we develop a resilience that cannot be taken away and only made stronger. You develop extra Superwoman skills; you become more aware, creative, even stronger, and you exercise your compassion and your ability to adapt todifficult circumstances.

You understand that they need YOU not only to survive, but to shape them into being respectful, successful, kind and compassionate people. There are no “participation trophies” for motherhood, your children are your trophies to mold and devote yourself to. It sounds like a lot of pressure, doesn’t it?

For me, that pressure is overwhelming to say the least. The weight of responsibility for other lives aside from your own can be crippling, but we do not have the choice to let it become a burden. Ever. That is why we have to be strong enough to give ourselves grace. The moment we understand that we cannot be the perfect parents and that such a thing does not exist, we are free to live and flourish in the fun and light sides of being a parent and who knows, even find enjoyment in the small moments even if they are a bit chaotic. I remember how hard it was when my second daughter was born and was immediately hit with colic. It was only the second week and I was just trying to survive being a mom of 2 under 1 and both started girls crying at. the. same. time. and. would’t. stop. Here is a clip for your enjoyment:

I started panicking, I was so scared. I was on my own with them for the first time and felt so helpless and alone, but in what felt like a supernatural moment, I burst out laughing because I felt in my heart that I would miss this one day and that I could handle things just fine. Every experience I had until that point in my life prepared me to handle that very situation. So here I am… exactly 1 year after that clip. I am happy, I am alive, I am SO TIRED, but I am doing the best I can every single day and enjoying every single moment of this amazing ride.

*Target runs look a little bit different now, but they burn more calories: toddler won’t go in cart, 2 nursing trips to the fitting room, a few extra dollars spent here, a couple tantrums there, but every trip is definitely worth it for my own sanity!!!!

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So yes, parenthood is probably the biggest change a person or a couple will EVER go through. It transforms and modifies everything about you, but I will tell you something that I know with absolute and unwavering certainty: these challenges refine you and make you become the best version of yourself because motherhood requires and pulls out the absolute best in you. Ok, now I am getting baby fever (and Target fever!), so let me go make some food and distract myself from the fact that I think 10 more children. K… bye!

Spring Bed Makeover With The Company Store

Hiiiii Guys!!

I am SO EXCITED to share my spring bed makeover with The Company Store with you all, because for the first time in my life I have Y E L L O W bedding, YES, my favorite color of all time is now all over my bed and I love it!

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Tim and I have really been trying to be declutter our house (it’s a HUGE project, BUT… we have made a lot of progress!) so we only have 2 sets of sheets, both by The Company Store: a white cotton set and this beautiful yellow linen set. We do not need any more at the moment, as we alternate between the two of them.

The Comfort Wash Solid Linen Sheet Set we chose is breathable, comfortable and perfectly light for spring/summer. I love the feel of it, and how simply gorgeous it looks when displayed on our bed! The set is completed with the duvet cover and the shams, simply click on the items’ names to check them out 🙂

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These are the decorative pillows we chose, because we have a desert/rustic/neutral theme in our bedroom. These pillows cases are SO incredibly well made and are so beautiful. You can find them by clicking here & here

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Our Cloud Blanket feels so soft and is very cozy for when I lay in bed with my ukulele while Tim takes the girls on a walk!

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This little clingy/sweet/perfect little baby approves this message, since she starts the night off in her crib next to my bed, and next thing you know she’s all up in my business trying to snatch my linen covers! Can’t blame her, they sure are my favorite!!

You can visit The Company Store’s website by clicking here. There is so much on sale, including my sheets and duvet cover. They are such a joy to partner with, are so kind and truly have the best bedding I have ever owned!

Keeping It Cozy with The Company Store

This year we finally took the plunge and upgraded our bed to a king size, because #KIDS! We love co-sleeping because it gives us a little bit of extra sleep, and at this point we will take ANY extra 5 minutes we possibly can!

We had no idea what bedding to purchase, because truthfully all I’ve ever purchased was off Amazon, or at a department store and I always had to repurchase after a few months, because everything got old very quickly.

Thankfully this time we got all of our bedding from The Company Store, and I will explain in detail why we are smitten and enjoying it so much!

PS: Everything I purchased is now on sale, so this is a great time to scoop up the items you need 🙂

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I am going to start with our bed itself. We were looking for a bed frame that we loved enough to commit to for a while, and the one I fell in love with was WAY out of our budget. My sweet husband is so handy and loves wood work, so guess what? He designed our bed, and built it in our basement, how cool is that? And for 1/6 of the price! So our bed is very special to us, and is the biggest thing he has ever built… he is pretty proud!

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We started off by purchasing a mattress pad, because the girls sleep with us (see that crib there in the picture? It’s only used for naps during the day #facepalm) and we do not want any surprises to stain our new mattress. We purchased the 400 Thread Count Waterproof Cotton Top Mattress Pad. I have tested it and it works, and I am kind of embarrassed to tell you how, but oh well hahaha! Last Thursday I hid in my bedroom when my husband got home, and he brought me a tray of sushi. I needed a few minutes of alone time, so that was the perfect opportunity. Zoey bursted into my room, and when I tried to hide the sushi (because she can’t have it yet, she is too young, not that I didn’t want to share… 😉 ) I spilled the bowl of soy sauce all over my white sheets, and it leaked through. I soaked the sheets in laundry detergent and they were brand new in about 10 minutes, and all I had to do with the mattress pad was wipe up the sauce. I was speechless with how wonderful this pad is!

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Onto the sheets we go!

I like the feel of cotton sheets, so we chose the Organic Cotton Jersey Fitted Sheet, and I cannot say enough good things about it. It is so so soft and washes SO WELL!

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Tim is so picky about pillows, so we opted to purchase 2 different sets.

For me, I chose the Lacrosse LoftAire Hypoallergenic Pillows and they are the perfect amount of comfort and structure for me. I’d say they help me fall asleep, but for the past 2 years if I blink for longer than 2 seconds I just fall asleep right there! Standing up and all!! hahaha!

And for Tim, he chose the Gusseted Side Sleeper Down Pillows. He likes taller pillows to support his neck, and he says that these pillows hold their form through the night, exactly what he needed!

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Last item: our comforter!!

Okay, I know I have been gushing over how great The Company Store is, but honestly I had never owned such great quality bedding. Now I feel like a real adult and I am so happy!

Our comforter is the Bamboo Cotton Comforter, which is THE SOFTEST, coziest and most breathable comforter I have ever had. My husband is in love with it, and lays on the bed just to cover himself with it in the middle on the day on the weekend, I am not kidding it would be funny if it he wasn’t neglecting something else, like taking the trash out or ironing his work clothes!!! hahaha!

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Make sure to visit The Company Store, guys! You know how honest I am, so when I recommend something to you, I take it very seriously because I know you trust me.

They are a joy to work with and the quality of their products is truly outstanding!

Our Bedtime Routine

I love my children and they are my entire life, but they drive me nuts, because they will not stay asleep for longer than a few hours at night, so we do our best to make bedtime as relaxing as possible in an attempt to get these two little rascals, I mean… angels, to sleep for as long as possible!

Since this is a question I get very frequently, I have teamed up with The Company Store  , who is sponsoring this post, because they sure are a part of our daily routine! You can also read other mothers bedtime routines by clicking here!

I will show you my step by step, let’s get started!

1st: We have quit TV recently. For a bunch of reasons, but mostly to try and see if it had been one of the reasons why the kids don’t sleep well, and let me tell you… it has helped tremendously! This is not a permanent decision, it is just what works for us at this time. Our bedtime starts at 7:30 pm, so we have dinner around 6:00 p.m. and try to wind down in preparation to bedtime, but you know how it is with 2 under 2: kind of a task for Ethan Hunt on Mission Impossible, but we do our best.

2nd: Tim takes Zoey into the living room and plays with her so I can bathe Hazel and put her to bed. I use one of those hammock baby bathtubs, and she absolutely loves it, it is very relaxing. 3 times a week we alter the tub with a neck float and she swims her way into bedtime, it’s so cute! I massage her feet, and use a low voice. I sing to her, talk to her and give her toys. This is what the whole thing looks like:

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We use these comfy towels from The Company Store, and I am not kidding I caught my husband trying to steal them from the girls and I and he said: oh but they are so good, and I was like hmmm sorry… go back to your old grey ones, these are ours haha! Maybe I should get him some! You probably saw me using these towels on my recent video “What Moms Think In The Shower”, I simply love them!

I take Hazel into my bedroom, and nurse/ rock her to sleep. We have never done any sleep training, so I spend a little longer making her fall asleep. I honestly do not mind, because I really love spending one on one time with each one of the girls. This is so special and I feel like it is going but too quickly!! (insert broken heart emoji here) After she falls asleep, I carefully transfer her into the crib that is next to my bed. She lasts the first couple of hours in the crib, after that we co-sleep, ‘cuz ain’t nobody wants to be getting’ up 10 times every night!!! You can have a glimpse by watching the video below ❤

3rd: Zoey’s turn! Some days she runs when she sees me after putting her little sister down, but some days she clings onto her daddy and wants to keep playing! But she is mostly pretty good, so I bring her into the bathroom and get it started! She won’t let me massage her feet, but she will for sure let me play with her hair and play peekaboo. We use the same baby tub, but I remove the hammock. A couple of times a week, we will fill up the big tub, and she LOVES it! She loves splashing water on me and I honestly don’t care much, since I could probably use a little bath myself! She then has her nighttime milk, and falls asleep in my arms, while twirling my hair. It’s my favorite part of the day… so sweet and most of all… QUIET!! 😉

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Meanwhile… Tim is cleaning up the living room disaster, he makes Zoey’s bottle, refills all humidifiers, prepares a snack for him and I and waits for me so we can spend a little time together every night!

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Now… Zoey has a bedroom. We replaced her crib with a queen size mattress on the floor because she needs A LOT OF ROOM to do her 180 degree turns at night, and it is on the floor because she is not ready for a bed yet, she would fall off of it. In the middle of the night or in the morning she walks to our bedroom, climbs on the bed and sleeps with us for the rest of the night. It is what works for our family and we love it! Although some days we wish we could have some more room 🙂 !!

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That was out bedtime routine! Although I feel like the girls get a full spa night every single night and I basically get a shower every couple of days, my heart is happy knowing that my babies are well taken care of and relaxed!

What makes your bedtime special? What do you do differently? I would love to hear it from you!!

Make sure to click here to check out our beloved towels from The Company Store. The quality of their products is outstanding, and here to check out our bedtime routine feature

I cannot wait to show you guys out spring bed makeover with The Company Store! Coming Soon!

Keeping It Together: Transitioning Into Parenthood

I am here today to tell you about my experience transitioning into motherhood, but not the pretty and fulfilling part of it. I am here to tell you about the raw and ground-shaking transition, that turned my life upside down and made me feel things I had never experienced before and did not know how to deal with.

Before I had my first daughter, I had this idea in my head that parenthood would be a piece of cake, a white wall/perfectly-sleeping-baby/bounced-back-from-postpartum-in-a-week experience due mostly to the social media accounts I was following back then, which do not get me wrong… are beautiful and inspiring, and the women behind them are just like us, but I did not know that that would be so far from my reality.

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The second factor that contributed to my idea of perfect parenthood was my own parents always handling parenthood like champions, it just seemed so effortless and natural for them, so of course I thought to myself: I’ve got this!

I finally had my first baby in August 2016. Everything was ready for her at home, clothes were washed, nursery set up, my mother was waiting for us at home with a delicious homemade meal prepared… it all looked so beautiful.

 

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The first week was manageable: breastfeeding hurt but was established, sleep deprivation was not a big issue yet because my husband and I were so excited, and that little baby was just great. It was when my mother left back to her country, my husband went back to work, and I found myself alone. My 2 week old baby had severe colic, I was recovering from quite a traumatic delivery, and had zero confidence that I could take care of my own child.

The first 2 months were rocky to say the least. From waking up almost 10 times a night, to resenting  my husband for not being on the same page with me (he just couldn’t connect with the baby, and was always too tired to help) I almost fell apart.

Truthfully, I was so in love with my daughter, she was absolutely perfect and my own to love, but for months I completely annulled myself in every possible way, and I still struggle with that. The mom guilt is so real and present every minute of everyday, and transitioning from an individual who used  to be free to do whatever she wanted to be basically be in house arrest is so abrupt.

I didn’t shower for days straight because she did not want to be with my husband, and when she was fine and I could have a moment for myself, I felt guilty and stressed, not able to enjoy a simple shower or a sit down meal.

Then… My husband and I found ourselves expecting another baby, just like that. In the middle of this whole uncharted territory we would become parents to children 11 months apart. It’s so easy to be judged when something like that happens, but it does happen. It did happen.

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We kept working on our marriage and on how to find balance between being parents and being a couple. We were either hugging and smiling at each other, or arguing and ignoring each other, there was no balance at all. I worried everyday that having another child would be the final straw and our marriage would fall apart, but we love each other very much and kept trying to make it work.

My second pregnancy was wonderful, and thankfully uneventful! The only thing that was very difficult was to chase down a crawling baby with a huge baby bump, but somehow I did it!

I feared that my first daughter would be jealous and hurt for suddenly having to share her parents, and I feared that my heart would not be able to love another baby the same way I loved her. As for husband… he was mentally preparing himself for the hardest time of his life.

On August 2017, my second daughter was born and she immediately took residence in my heart, so that fear flew out the window right away. My first daughter just ignored the newborn and kept behaving the same way she did before, win win! So we were left still working on our marriage.

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Managing two was a challenge, but I can’t explain to you how we made it work. Our second baby  was even more colicky than the first one and that lasted for 3 whole months. My first daughter wanted attention, so during the day I tried splitting my time evenly, sometimes succeeding, often failing, but somehow this time around my husband and I knew what to do. We knew how to handle the witching hour, the household chores, the crawling baby, and slowly things started looking up.

Some days were great, and happy. Some days were exhausting, and filled with arguments. While we were keeping up with what we needed to do with the babies, to me, he was never doing enough and   I was overwhelmed. To him, He wanted moments with his wife, so we kept fighting.

3 months in, her colic was completely gone, and as parents we were working hard and gaining confidence to take care of our Irish Twins.

We finally had a breakthrough and talked for hours after letting resentment create a wedge between   us for so long. We found within ourselves and in the girls the strength to fight for our family. We forgave each other, and promised to not forget that we are a couple, to devote time to our relationship and to communicate an issue before it fasters into resentment.

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Where we are at? We’re at a good place. We  are learning each day together how to parent and manage a house. We’re  learning that bad days really do make you stronger,  because they teach you and  change you. Good days make you almost forget the hardships, and are so rewarding… I simply love them.

I, as an individual am trying to understand that I matter too. Sometimes I feel so lonely and isolated for having quit my job and given up my independence, but then I remember that it was the best choice for our family.

We are all in this together. All parents. There is no shame in the way you choose to educate or care for your children, and if your journey doesn’t seem perfect, it’s because it isn’t, but it is YOUR journey.

We are keeping it together because we are strong. We may fail at times, but we also succeed many many times. Our children don’t need us to be perfect, they need us to be present, to love them, and to do the best we can. #keepingittogether

 

This post is sponsored by @PlumOrganics, and their incredible #KeepingItTogether campaign, which encourages new parents, and lets us all know that we are all in this together!

 

Make sure to visit plumorganics.com/keepingittogether

“You Can Make It Through This In One Piece”